Marriage !!??

Personally, I'm not against it, and I'm not for it. Maybe its because of
the way things are right now. Naw, that's not it. Or, maybe I haven't
found my 'soulmate'. No, that's not it either. Its because people
change. Notice I didn't single out neither male or female. People
change.

Nothing wrong living together either, well I don't think so. But with
that too, people change. Think about it. Tell me one thing besides
breathing that you think you can do for the rst of your adult life, and
like it. The only thing that comes close to that is worshipping your
God. Now that's something I 'could' do for the rest of my life if I was
that type of person. Marriage is something completelt different though.
Wanna know what would happen if I was to be married or get married. The
following are the steps, and not in any special order.

Okay I love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you, but
something major has to happen first. You first have to be havinng my
child. That's right, I don't have any children, and I know I don't have
any children out there, believe me, 'I KNOW'.

Nothing changes between us caue you are having a child by me. I don't
care or wish to hear, 'well the baby is making me act this way'. Nope
its not the baby, its you. Calm down, take deep breaths...chill.

We are both free to do as we like. I know what you're thinking. But as
adults we think otherwise. Respect yourself, and you show that you
respect me, and visa versa. We can come and go as we both please,
doesn't mean we have to take vacations together, well at least not every
year we don't. We both need our own alone time, I know I do.

Your friends are your friends, and mine are mine. You're probably not
going to like any of my friends, you don't have to cause they are my
friendss and they know where I stand with them. I doubt if they ever
will disrespect you, but if they do, tell me and I will handle it. You
need not say anything to them about what they said to you. Just tell me.
But please continue to show them that you're 'not affected' by what they
said to you. There is a reason for this. See some of my friends are
stupid, but they are still my friends. I over look it, you should try to
too. It becomes a game when you do. Then one day you will learn to like
them as I do, and call them your friends also.

If, and they are more, if you could keep this in mind, maybe we will
have a chance at making this marriage be a healthy one. But keep in mind
one thing. You are having or have had my child. And that child shall be
bought up in a 2 parent household no matter what. That means no matter
what we go through, we will always be together for the childs sake. We
made this child out of love, and he will be bought up by both parents no
matter what.
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