I Know What I Said, But...

First things s first. T-Mobile...enough said. On to other agendas. One of my friends came by work yesterday, and we had a little talk. It seems that she is now single... again after 10 years. Thats what she told me, "again" She didn't get into why, and the what, but I know its bothering her. How I know? She gave me the "I'm gonna do me" talk. Hello, everyday we wake up we are doing ourselves, thats what I said, but not to her. She told me that she has to have 6 months to get herself together. 6 months of NOT dating, or going out with some one. WTF is that all about. Let me see if I have this staright, with what she said. Soooo, if you aren't doing what I ask you to do, and you are making me unhappy... I don't want a relationship with you any more. If you are not giving me what I want, when I want it, I don't want a relationship with you any more. Is that what she is saying. On top of all of that, I'm gonna take 6 months off to do me. In other words, I'm taking 6 months to find me that person who IS gonna do the things I want them to do. Is that what she saying? Or, is it that she was so hurt by this breakup, that she needs time to recover. But thats not the impression that I got though. Thsi warrants more investigation.

I have had my share of GF's, and I'm still friends with them, thats if we stay in touch. I'm in touch with a bout 5 of them by email cause they live outside of NY. I have one ex that lives in White Plains, NY and almost every weekend I go and see her, spend a night at her house. I sleep on the floor in a blow up bed. We are close friends and sometimes we are REALLY close friends, but that left up to her. She likes when I come and visit her, we do nothing but look at tv and eat food and joke on each other. She is my best friend. She has her life to live and I have mine, which brings me to this....

My friend who just broke up her 10 year relationship, I know what she is feeling, going through. You get use to havings things in their place, and then some one moves them, and it throws your off. Thats what breakups are all about, that body isn't there to keep your universe in its right order, so everything is off. There is nothing wrong with having "Friends" Friends serve their purpose ya know. You can have a shopping, drinking, some one to cry on their shoulder...type friends. You can also have friends that you ...lets say.. get naked around, thats entirely all up to you. Don't deny yourself of what you want, what you miss, for 6 months, because some one else says things aren't the way things suppose to be. Of course that my opinion, but hey, what do I know. Im just the 800 pound gorilla in the room.