Bored...again.

Just had a convo with a customer. She has a 18 month old child, and she
said she left the baby's father cause she said she was in a dead end
relationship. Now, I don't understand that. Is it because I dontr have
any children, nor a girlfriend? I asked her, what did she expect from
him once she told him that she wqas with his child.

She said during the months that lead up to the birth, she knew that he
wasn't going to be around once the child was born. This conversation we
had, she told me, was a release for her. Even though the attitude that I
got from her was that 'all' men aren't shit, I listened and gave some
advice. First thing I asked her was why did she think that having a bay
by him would keep him around. She, like many others answered, cause she
thought it would bring them closer together. No, he drew the both of you
further apart.

Since you weren't living together, he found many of wxcuses to stay away
from you, and you found many ways to try to get him to your place. Even
marraige is a sure means of holding a relationship together and I think
having his baby was what cemeted him running out the door.

Yeah she asked me about my relationship status, kids, the whole nine. I
told her no girlfriend, wife or kids. Told her also that I like to be
able to come and go as I please, but not in the way that she is
thinking. I heard it all before, 'I'm not a commimnet type of guy', no,
I am that type of person that likes a long term relationship. But you
women, after you move in together with your man, ya'll tend to knock
having sex off the menu, like it doesn't mean much to you if you have or
don't have it.

'+h, that changes after you have a baby'. No it doesn't. I know woman
who went straight into fucking, not the baby's father, 3 weeks after
giving birth. I know of women, who right up to the 9 month were fucking,
and not the baby's father. I think its because once you have a man
underneath the same roof with you, its now, you have to provide and take
care of me. That comes without saying, but you don't quit your job and
put it all on yourself.

Not all women are like this I tell her, just some. When she left, she
gave me her number and told me to call her after work so we can discuss
this some more, yeah, right.
--michaelchappell