Why ?

Me as a man, I try to live up to my word. If I say I'm going to do something, I try my best to keep my word. Sometimes my plans change, and I have to change sometimes with a quickness. I's not because I'm being selfish, it's because I just don't feel comfortable doing what I originally had plan. Does that make any sense? We as human beings, we can do that.

Then, sometimes as human beings, we put ourselves in situations when we know we are going to hurt our self and worse, others. I know of a situation like that.

Sje is a beautiful young woman, 22 years old. But her eyes are that of a woman that has seen a lot in her young life. Why is it that I always run across women with these problems. She meets a guy, a coworker, and she knows he is involved with some one who isn't in this country. Fast forward a year and a half, she open his email and reads it. He is leaving in December to go marry this woman, but he hasn't told her this. He told her that he is going back to his country. Oh yeah, he is 35 years old, but age has nothing to do with it.

Knowing what she knows, she feels like she has been used, and that he isn't being honest with her. But he has, he told her there was someone else, e just didn't tell her that he is going to marry this woman. To amke matters wore they are living together and here is where is gets shaky. The soon to be sister in law use to have the apartment that they are living in, she moved to Chicago, but she is coming in December to see him off. She had the apartment and because he is see her sister, rented, sub leased it to him. She is coming December to see him off for 4 days. He told her that she has to give up the bedroom cause by law its still her apartment and that she shouldn't have to sleep on the couch cause all the furniture is her by right. Blah, blah, blah. Here's what I told her.

Pack your clothes up and moved back to your mother's house by the 15th of November, and break off all ties, connection with this guy. I know it will hurt but just do it. He is being an asshole on not telling you the truth and he knows how you feel about him. It's not that he doesn't care, he is focus on starting his new life with this other woman and you knew about this from the beginning. He figured that you were cool with it, but you aren't and you're afraid to tell him. So I say, get out before he leaves.

I admit, as a man, us men can be stupid non caring assholes at times. People are like that no matter what.