I Don't...

One of my female online friends..she is just too much..

At the ripe age of 39, she figures that she is one of a kind. Though we all are as humans, but she takes it to another level. She has two things going for her..her looks and her body. But what she states and speaks to me about...its crazy, her way if thinking. ...and she too..waiting on Mr Right to just come along and give her everything that she CAN dream of.

Her make FB friends are silent when she posts something that doesn't make sense. Won't call her on her BS like I do.. In a nice informative way, as I do. They praise her, worship the ground she walks on, in this case, agrees with everything she post. I'm not 'hating', its just..all she needs is a blonde wig and she is set. 

She wants to be in a relationship, but get this... With 2 bi guys living  with them under the same roof. Or, a relationship where she isn't sleeping with,  involved with her, but she can sleep with any other man she chooses. But if course the guy can't. Yep, I called her on her shit. Another thing she wants.. If you do sleep with her, will cost you a pretty penny. But she doesn't classifies herself as a whore. I blame it all on the internet and Selfies. And, wimpy ass guys who just agree to her BS. She tells me that out of all of her true real life in person friends that she sees almost everyday, I'm the honest one. I tell her, if I could, like I wanted to when we first started contact...'dig her back out', but not anymore.

What I Gave Up..and What I Will Continue to STILL Do

I got married..and in ALL reality, it still feels the same way to me if as if I was dating.

But, on another level, it means I can't come and go as I please, do as I please. Let me explain.

SHE asked me to marry her and I accepted. 3 months up to the wedding day, every so often, I would ask are you sure you want to do this. The reason..the man is suppose to be in charge..so to speak. But this man also knows how to communicate with his wife about the things he has planned, the moves he wants to make..the things that the both of them can, should be able to do together. See, I can understand that her being a woman that she has be so use to doing things for herself and by herself. All I asked her to do is believe in me..that's all..not hard to do.But, f she starts making plans to do things on her own without informing me, telling me..there is a problem. I'm not going for that..'I told you, you just don't remember it that I told you' BS. Nope, I remember everything that is said to me that is of IMPORTANCE and woman you are important to me.

I made a suggestion..NO SPENDING of ANY MONEY..mines, yours for 90 days, 3 months. Other than food, household supplies, rent, gas and water..NO MONEY is to be spent. I then forgot I was talking to a woman..my wife. The issue is.. Women spend money..mines..hers..but mines first. It's in their nature I guess. In order to achieve a goal you have to set standards, limits and I FELT that that what is needed. I came into this without any bills other than JUST my phone bill..wait, $450. A Secured Credit Card..which I was was..I didn't want to get, but I had to play a part in being 'responsible'. I'm strickly cash..if I don't have it, I won't and don't need it, it's not that serious to me in owning a credit card. HER bills are MY bills and MY bills are MY bills. There are other factors in this case also.

I ONLY had to take care of ME, no one else but ME. She, on the other hand has 3 grown..I'm gonna call the kids for the time being..she has those 3. Those 3 DEPEND on her like something you wouldn't believe. I made it CLEAR..I am NOT their father, nor will I try to be..they are grown..figure it out. She is still the mother, so she supports them, and I support her..see where I am going. I called her..she is out of town. I heard her almost 40 year old daughter in the back ground state...'I am hungry, feed me mother.' WTF?! I told her, tell her to get something to eat then, you're on the phone and respect that you're on the phone. She, my wife just laughed but I saw nothing funny at it. My mother raised me the..if not the right way, the ONLY way. When you get to an age when you pay taxes, you start doing adult like things..working, putting clothes on your back and feeding yourself. Apparently SOME ONE didn't get the memo. Another factor plays(ed) into this.

I'm going to explain it this way.. You go to school, and work your way through High School..go on to college and then get a job. Though school, college isn't for everyone..anything AFTER your basic 4 years of college..like getting your MASTERS..MEANS NOTHING if you haven't worked a day in your life. ..and depend on some one else to pay ALL of your bills. There, I said it. One thing my parents talk me..'No one can say anything about you if you're working.'

Home

North Carolina !!

...okay, I've been to Ft Bragg..82nd AIRBORNE!! I made them walk because one of them was smoking a cigarette in the back of my truck. I was immediately disliked. So, how did I come from living in Rochester, NY..and then next..living in Charlotte, NC? Let's take a trip back...

Last Summer, I met a woman online at one of those dating sites..Tagged. She agreed to meet me in Syracuse..where she was born and raised..we met at The Mall. She is living with her daughter in Charlotte, NC and she was up North paying a visit to her doctor. We met at The Mall, spent a couple of hours..yada, yada..hotel. Then decided we should both continue to see each other..see where it would lead us. She traveled between the North & South through the whole Summer. Asked me to marry her in November. What could I say? I mean, does a guy say no when asked by the woman? I said yes and I also said are you sure you want to do this with me. She said she wanted some one to take care of her. I told her I sometimes have a hard time taking care of myself..but, I will give it a try. I told her it would be easy. It's not, it never will be..who was I fooling.

I am going to give my opinion on this thing called marriage. It's beautiful and it SUCKS. It's like a love, hate type thing. I didn't live with her, and she didn't live with me. We BOTH don't know what it's like to live with each other. She is retired and have a lot of time on her hands..me, I still work. I can go with the flow, but I know ho I go about doing life's everyday  needs. She..believes that PAYING top dollar for something ALWAYS means it's the best..which it isn't. It;s a new experience for the both of us, but MORE for me than for her.

But, I'm LOVING Charlotte, NC!! I never lived here before. I visited 2 days in a row..I was stationed at Ft Jackson, SC..Truck Driver. I live in a nice Gated Complex..surprises me beyond anything I would have imagined I would be living in. Rent to me is a little high, but some of the people I spoke to here say that it's a good price for what I get with the apartment.

Gonna mention the bugs that are HERE next time.

ME!!

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I'm Back!!

For real, its been a long time...and a LOT has changed. One being...

I got married. And, with getting married the wife decided she has the decision on where WE are to live. Guess she made my mind up for me and...North Carolina it was. Charlotte to be exact.

The trip, because it was a trip..packed my stuff into her SUV in Rochester...she drove from Syracuse where she has a home. ...then we went back to Syracuse for a couple of days before the drive to NC. Some where during the drive, she decided I should see my Aunt in The Bronx.

I've been away from NYC for a little over a year, so I forgot some things..like RUSH HOUR traffic coming across the George Washington Bridge. Freaked her out when we sat there 2 football fields from the toll. Freaked her even more..the $15 toll. EVEN more, that set if small under passes after the toll into The Bronx. Not me though, I was HOME again 

The drive from Syracuse to Charlotte, NC WAS suppose to be a 12 hour drive, left at 3am, arrive at 3pm. Throw in the trip into The Bronx, arrived in Charlotte at 11:30pm. Too late to get a hotel room, because we were signing our lease at 9am..so, we slept in the car at a Walmart parking lot. Mind you, I drove ALL the way.

IH, I had 2 interviews scheduled for the next day. I started working 2 days later. In fact, other jobs I she t my resume to, wanted to work out what my primary schedule would be so they can fit me in. We will see, giving it a month at where I'm working at now.

Wife got some bad news, her children's father passed away in Arizona. She was already driving back to Syracuse for a dentist appointment, so this bit of depressing news now HSS her flying out to Arizona.. Don't know when I will see her again. Probably in July. I hope.

Next, I will talk about Public Transportation, the buses here..which I have to use.