What I Gave Up..and What I Will Continue to STILL Do

I got married..and in ALL reality, it still feels the same way to me if as if I was dating.

But, on another level, it means I can't come and go as I please, do as I please. Let me explain.

SHE asked me to marry her and I accepted. 3 months up to the wedding day, every so often, I would ask are you sure you want to do this. The reason..the man is suppose to be in charge..so to speak. But this man also knows how to communicate with his wife about the things he has planned, the moves he wants to make..the things that the both of them can, should be able to do together. See, I can understand that her being a woman that she has be so use to doing things for herself and by herself. All I asked her to do is believe in me..that's all..not hard to do.But, f she starts making plans to do things on her own without informing me, telling me..there is a problem. I'm not going for that..'I told you, you just don't remember it that I told you' BS. Nope, I remember everything that is said to me that is of IMPORTANCE and woman you are important to me.

I made a suggestion..NO SPENDING of ANY MONEY..mines, yours for 90 days, 3 months. Other than food, household supplies, rent, gas and water..NO MONEY is to be spent. I then forgot I was talking to a woman..my wife. The issue is.. Women spend money..mines..hers..but mines first. It's in their nature I guess. In order to achieve a goal you have to set standards, limits and I FELT that that what is needed. I came into this without any bills other than JUST my phone bill..wait, $450. A Secured Credit Card..which I was was..I didn't want to get, but I had to play a part in being 'responsible'. I'm strickly cash..if I don't have it, I won't and don't need it, it's not that serious to me in owning a credit card. HER bills are MY bills and MY bills are MY bills. There are other factors in this case also.

I ONLY had to take care of ME, no one else but ME. She, on the other hand has 3 grown..I'm gonna call the kids for the time being..she has those 3. Those 3 DEPEND on her like something you wouldn't believe. I made it CLEAR..I am NOT their father, nor will I try to be..they are grown..figure it out. She is still the mother, so she supports them, and I support her..see where I am going. I called her..she is out of town. I heard her almost 40 year old daughter in the back ground state...'I am hungry, feed me mother.' WTF?! I told her, tell her to get something to eat then, you're on the phone and respect that you're on the phone. She, my wife just laughed but I saw nothing funny at it. My mother raised me the..if not the right way, the ONLY way. When you get to an age when you pay taxes, you start doing adult like things..working, putting clothes on your back and feeding yourself. Apparently SOME ONE didn't get the memo. Another factor plays(ed) into this.

I'm going to explain it this way.. You go to school, and work your way through High School..go on to college and then get a job. Though school, college isn't for everyone..anything AFTER your basic 4 years of college..like getting your MASTERS..MEANS NOTHING if you haven't worked a day in your life. ..and depend on some one else to pay ALL of your bills. There, I said it. One thing my parents talk me..'No one can say anything about you if you're working.'