I'm Banned From This Sub on Reddit

I’m freshly single at 44…not that I’m looking right away, but say, can I meet a decent man in my mid 40’s?

My partner and I decided to end our relationship and not because of lack of love but because of his lack of healing and ability to show up for me consistently due to complicated circumstances beyond our control. I’m a 44 yo woman, active, I have a good career, and tons of hobbies, friends, a full life. Have you found love at 45+? I thought this was my person, and I really love being with someone (but one if it is really special), and I’m feeling a little lost.

 (M63) You said NOT because of the lack of Love. But isn't Love what holds relationships together? His lack of healing? Maybe it takes some people longer to heal, to get over. ..and his consistent and non-ability to... Sounds like some type of medical situation that came up, and neither you nor him had any control over it. Correct? I could be wrong.

Now you're looking into the future, and are there possibilities of you finding a DECENT man in your mid-40s... For what? Your ex, the both of you Loved each other, as you said. Do you still Love your ex?

Yes, some men fit what you are looking for. But what you are looking for, I feel, has nothing to do with Love...because you had that. Maybe you're looking for a man who Loves you and you Love him... And he lacks any emotional attachments or feelings other than just for you. Also... He should be there for you no matter what. When you need him, he has to be there for you regardless of any situation.

Please tell me I'm wrong.