I Have Noticed a Pattern...So To Speak

I've been thinking about this for a long time, say a month. At first I thought it was just me, and I was seeing things within a box. Come to find out that my thoughts all along have been correct.

I have been meeting women, talking with them, getting to know them so to speak. Most as only as just friends cause you can never have too many friends, these just happen to be women. Guys are a whole different matter. I don't go looking for friendship from a certain class of woman, that she has to fit a criteria. Just friends is all and I let it go from there. But what I come to understand, and bear with me on this one, cause maybe I am not the only one who see things this way, but... There are a lot of hurt women, women who have been wronged by men.

They are walking out there, walking on the streets with the impression that everything is all okay. Thats good for them; walking with their heads up, going about life everyday as if nothing has happened to them. But if a guy, such as me, just happens to get into a conversation with one, it seems that they are willing to tell, talk about their true feelings. Hey, I know that SOME of the male species, we can be real assholes and that there isn't a sign over our heads stating this. Women, just like men, have to take their chances too. But it seems that guys have been treating women just plain wrong.

Take woman A. See her almost every work day. Yesterday, she said that she needed some one to talk to, to get this out of her system. She has 2 girls, the father isn't in the picture, but she met this other guy. She just recently found out after dating and seeing each other for over 2 years that he is married with 3 kids. How she found out after all this time? Well, she lost her job over a year ago, and he was paying her rent, but the wife wondered where $900 dollars was going every month, so she did some checking out. So Woman A lost her apartment and is staying with family in the same area, that is why I see almost everyday. My first question to her was how did she NOT know he was married, has she ever been to his place? Really there was no need to, because she has 2 girls to take care of at home, I figured that one out myself, she didn't. She was just stuck on the question. Now her world is turned upside down, she feels less than and doesn't want to her anything coming from any man...even me.

Woman B. Grown daughter, nice home, nice job, everything going in her favor. She meets a guy, a guy who doesn't have a job, so she looks out for him. Gives him money for interviews, buys him nice clothes for these interviews, even lets him borrow her car to go on these interviews. This was after 2 months. She tells me, that she really was falling for this guy, so she asked him to move in at the 3 month period. Then things go crazy, her words, not mine. She comes home and find a couple, man and woman in her home, they staying to all times of the night. he asking for 100's of dollars, disappearing for days with her car, coming back stinking looking really bad. But she loves him. Then he snaps. Starts getting violent with her, demanding more and more money, she tells me she gave it to him. Then one day she couldn't take it any more, she calls the police to have him removed. Destroyed her home and her felling is what he did. But she still loves him and will always will.

There are more, but nope, not getting into it. My part is that I come on the back end. the time when they are going thru the healing process. The time when they need a person to talk to cause they won't talk to others or family members cause they don't want to seem like being a fool or stupid. But their guards are up now, no longer will they be taken for granted. I always ask, how come you just didn't use him JUST for sex, cause that is possible. How come you didn't ask the RIGHT questions, cause from what I see, you should have.I leave them with this ALL the time... You have to start THINKING LIKE A MAN.